Wednesday, 28 March 2018
Yes, it's a job interview. Your palms are getting sweaty, your throat dry, beads of sweat are starting to form on your forehead...
No, just stop.
What is it you are worrying about?
It's not really about the job, is it?
It's about what they think of you.
You are worried that they won't think you are good enough.
So what? What do their opinions matter? Why are you setting so much store by them?
What is your opinion of yourself? Shouldn't that matter more?
Focus on becoming the best you that you can be, not pretending to be a you that you are not just to try to sway someone else's opinion.
You can't control that, but you can control your own actions and reactions.
Sunday, 18 March 2018
Did you ask something of someone and get an unfavourable reaction?
Maybe they said no to you, when you really hoped they'd say yes.
So you lost out?
Did you ask for the right reasons? Did you feel that it was the right thing to do?
So you've gained, not lost.
Not only have you stuck to the principle of doing the right thing, you have lived it and shown it.
You control your reaction, not the action of another.
Be thankful that what happened has happened, learn from it and act on it.
Tuesday, 6 March 2018
What are you waiting for? Someone to tell you what to do next?
But you know what to do next. You could write a list of all the things you need to do!
So do it.
Yes, write down - physically, pen and paper - ten things you need to, want to, do this week.
Make it a bit easier for yourself, make one thing a gift: "Make a to-do list", and tick that item off.
Now, make sure you work through the list, and tomorrow review it, and update it, and even note what you did and jot down why you didn't do the other stuff.
Do this every day, until it becomes such a habit you miss it when you don't do it first thing in a morning and review it every night.
Just do it. Now.
Saturday, 24 February 2018
For what you've got.
It's easy to keep wanting new things, more things, better things.
But look around you - you are alive, and that is such a precious thing.
It could all end tomorrow, so live life to the fullest with what you have.
Friday, 9 February 2018
It's easy to waste time.
So why waste it?
You know that you are wasting time.
You know that the thing you are doing isn't you doing your best, by yourself or others, and it isn't making you a better person.
So stop doing, and do something more productive instead.
Thursday, 1 February 2018
Tuesday, 23 January 2018
A lot of stoic (or Stoic) advocates advise keeping a journal, like Marcus Aurelius.
It doesn't have to be public (like a blog), or shared, or even - I suggest - written in a diary.
It can be a set of post-its, keep notes, evernote things...
One thing I do, and I find useful, is taking the emails from the Daily Stoic and filing them in a folder.
Then, in an idle five minutes over breakfast, I pick one at random on my phone and re-read it. Three times.
And this gives me something to focus on that day. And the next. And the next.
And I tick that "Read Daily Stoic email" task off my to-do list on Google Keep for the day, and get on with using the day to do more and be better.
Thursday, 11 January 2018
You will be criticised.
You will be blamed.
You will be lambasted.
They could have said things so much worse about you.
If they only knew, eh?!
Be thankful that you now know what they think of you.
Doesn't your opinion of you matter?
Friday, 5 January 2018
Accept this. No, love this. Amor fati.
What has happened, has happened. Now you must work to make what you can control be the best it can be.
And what can you control?
Your reaction. Your actions. You.
Do the work to get the results you desire.